Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Families Are The Foundation Of Humanity
This little grouping of kids is awaiting grandparents. Before Jim and I get there I want to tell John and Claire how grateful I am for their parenting. All my kids are great parents. I could brag a book. But, in contemplation let me mention what it takes to parent well. I hope you will add to the list in the comments.
1. The willingness to teach right from wrong. In the world today that teaching must come from the home. Do not rely on others to teach this. And remember that the best teaching is done by example.
2. Discipline with love. The object of discipline is self-discipline. Remember that you discipline the act. Don't go after the soul of the person. Never name call: "You are so stupid. You are so clumsy. You don't care about your sister (uncaring), etc. Kids will believe those labels. Try instead, "We don't do that! It will break." Catch them doing something good and compliment them. "Thank you for helping Jack. That is such a good example to Miri."
3. Spend time with your children. Read to them when they are young. Listen to them when they are talking to you. Play the games children play.
4. Set goals with your children and help them meet them. Sometimes they won't even know the goals are set. I taught all of my five children to read before they entered kindergarten. They just knew it was time for fun. One summer all the kids entered a project for the county fair. Ribbons are not just for the hair.
5. Tell them you love them. Often.
6. Teach them about their heritage.
7. Teach them cleanliness. Clean the room, brush your teeth kind of stuff, but also clean thoughts, clean deeds, clean motives. We do the right things for the right reasons. Not just to avoid punishment or to meet certain goals...but because it is the right thing to do. Purity. And do better the next day if you aren't there yet.
8. Teach your children thrift. Think poverty. Would you be wasteful if you were poor? No. So let's respect what we have and learn to share with others. Money is not the root of all evil. Timothy is often misquoted. "The LOVE of money that is the root of all evil." So, let them know it is OK to accumulate wealth.