I am publishing most of the comments but if they are a bit long I have read them as letters to me rather than blog responses. I haven't taken the time to edit comments to size.
To clarify for those who have asked....
Hear me now: The department does not want this child to go to ANY relative. All relatives...good relatives...have been arbitrarily taken out of the running.
The Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) does not like the grandparents. He liked them at first...but they complained about their daughter's living conditions and then it was down hill...like being thrown out a window. He has yelled at them and threatened them. And, this CASA is an unelected judge, of sorts, and has the power to make decisions.
Hear me now....You have to figure out what the outcome of given activity will be to understand what someone really wants!
They say they want reunification but forbid the aunt and uncle.
Then they allow only five hours of visit time with the grandparents in one year.
Then they set an extremely high bar for the teen mother (one drink in 10 months!!!!)
The mother is accused of failing.
The state claims the toddler does not know her relatives.
After the "one drink termination" the state awards the child to the "back to back" day care foster parent.
Reunification is not the goal of DSHS/CPS. The goal is termination and a predetermined placement.
The department tells me out of one side of their collective mouths...that they are working toward reunification. If that was really the case then they would not put all of their eggs in one basket...the 19 year old mother. And, they would let other relatives have a continued familial relationship with the child. That way...if the mother messed up...the child still has other relatives in her life.
So...if your goal is to reunite the family...it means the whole family and not just the mother!!! And, you prepare for the fact that termination may occur and other family members are ready and willing to receive the child.
This is what the legislature, "in its wisdom" has decided. Absent any accountability....the culture of DSHS...steals children.
The mother, in this case, has grown up a lot. She has the support of a loving family. She should not have her child stolen by CPS, the CASA, and an unworthy foster adopt. This child belongs with her family.