It is safer and easier for Lilly to detach herself from the love rather than hang on to it. (This is Dr. Pam speaking. Just a little common sense here. (I say this to put the DSHS shrinks back to attention. They can't stand it when I am right.)
I knew a man by the name of Paul O. Snyder. He was one of the conservative stalwarts of 25 years ago. Former State Senator and King County Councilman Kent Pullen introduced me to him. Paul was executive director of Citizens Taxpayers Association. I am sure he has passed.
Turns out Paul was a strict parent and his teenage daughter did not want to live in the house under his rules any more. So, at 16 years old she went to the school counselor and asked to be removed and placed in foster care. That was what happened.
Not too much time had gone by when the Snyder family noticed a big change in her. Turns out she was receiving counseling from the government.
Paul won a major case against the State of Washington. The state was found to have committed alienation of affection. There was a financial award for the Snyder family. And, the case is still in textbooks across the country. But, they lost their daughter through the counseling that was given her by the government. The counselor told her that her parents belief in God, tight rules of no dating yet...etc...you know the story...they were bad and terrible parents.
CPS uses alienation of affection to achieve a diagnosis of attachment disorder. It is part of how they approach the judge...how they have learned they can succeed in stealing a child to give it to someone else.
The following was sent to me yesterday and reminded me of the Snyder family:
"It isn't that difficult to know whether to remove or not to remove a child. Look around and see if the child is in eminent danger of mental or bodily harm that can not be corrected with the help of CPS. This is the only reason a child is to be removed from their home. If the parents are involved in drugs the child is in danger. If there is no food, give the family food stamps, if they need money management skills, teach them, if it is parenting skills enroll them in parenting classes.
I think everyone should know by now that it only takes 3 moves in foster care for some children to develop attachment disorder. It is not a culture or social issue it is what is in the best interest of the child."
Lola Bailey, President
National Committee of Grandparents
For Children's Rights
866-624-9900 Toll Free