Dear Pam Roach Readers;
I am "Lily's" grandmother and would like to respond to some of the comments posted on this blog.
"Lily" is not a child that has behavioral problems. Her mother lived with us while she was pregnant. My husband and I helped name her, (she is named after the elementary school my husband works at) and we were in the labor room and finally the operating room when she was born. She was handed directly to us and had been entirely with us until January 9th, 2009. The day she was taken it is said that she was hysterical. Our first visit the next week she shouted "I was lost but now I am found again". When we had to leave her that day she screamed for 57 minutes until she finally banged her head into the foster's woman's car door frame so hard she was almost unconscious. To recall the events that have happened this last year is so painful that I cannot even start to tell you things she has said. "Lily" had the best of care with us, social workers used us as an example, and I still currently teach parenting classes. "Lily's" parents are not screwballs as stated. Our daughter is doing very well, works full time, does no alcohol or drugs, and has her own home. She is currently in appeal court to get "Lily" back since she was lied to that we were already approved to adopt her and that it was " as good as done"."Lily"s father, whom she only saw a few times, died when she was just a few months old in a terrible car accident.
"Lily" was taught sign language, water babies skills, and was learning to play the piano when she was taken. "Lily" is an exceptionally beautiful, mature, well behaved child. I work with hundreds of children her age and she was in the top 5 percent of children in her age range. Of course I sound prejudice, which I am, however others are not and I have hundreds of comments and letters from people who cannot believe that this has happened to us.
As far as our healthcare, we work for the public school system and have wonderful health care. However, insurance will not pay for the same tests or unnecessary tests time and time again. I have now had 5 physicals in 2009 and now a mammogram. My father was 96 when he died....My grandfather, 106. I plan on following in their footsteps. I also have had 7 background checks and signed many blank release of information forms for this latest home study. Who has 5 physicals, complete blood tests, mammograms, 7 background checks and signs blank release forms for an adoption? All tests, physicals, background checks and mammogram came back perfect! DSHS then tells us I have breast cancer.
Does anyone remember what DSHS told "Lily" the day they took her away? They wanted her to go into the DSHS office to open Christmas presents they had gotten her. There was never any presents and they took her away from us and the only family she had ever known and put her in a foster home. "Lily" remembers. When we celebrated Christmas at the DSHS office this year (heartbreaking) she did not want to open anything at first. She thought it was a trick..... What wonderful things they are teaching our babies...
(I offer this space for any other comments from family or DSHS. Pam)