Friday, January 1, 2010

A Letter To Us From "Lilly's" Grandmother

Dear Pam Roach Readers;

I am "Lily's" grandmother and would like to respond to some of the comments posted on this blog.

"Lily" is not a child that has behavioral problems. Her mother lived with us while she was pregnant. My husband and I helped name her, (she is named after the elementary school my husband works at) and we were in the labor room and finally the operating room when she was born. She was handed directly to us and had been entirely with us until January 9th, 2009. The day she was taken it is said that she was hysterical. Our first visit the next week she shouted "I was lost but now I am found again". When we had to leave her that day she screamed for 57 minutes until she finally banged her head into the foster's woman's car door frame so hard she was almost unconscious. To recall the events that have happened this last year is so painful that I cannot even start to tell you things she has said. "Lily" had the best of care with us, social workers used us as an example, and I still currently teach parenting classes. "Lily's" parents are not screwballs as stated. Our daughter is doing very well, works full time, does no alcohol or drugs, and has her own home. She is currently in appeal court to get "Lily" back since she was lied to that we were already approved to adopt her and that it was " as good as done"."Lily"s father, whom she only saw a few times, died when she was just a few months old in a terrible car accident.
"Lily" was taught sign language, water babies skills, and was learning to play the piano when she was taken. "Lily" is an exceptionally beautiful, mature, well behaved child. I work with hundreds of children her age and she was in the top 5 percent of children in her age range. Of course I sound prejudice, which I am, however others are not and I have hundreds of comments and letters from people who cannot believe that this has happened to us.
As far as our healthcare, we work for the public school system and have wonderful health care. However, insurance will not pay for the same tests or unnecessary tests time and time again. I have now had 5 physicals in 2009 and now a mammogram. My father was 96 when he died....My grandfather, 106. I plan on following in their footsteps. I also have had 7 background checks and signed many blank release of information forms for this latest home study. Who has 5 physicals, complete blood tests, mammograms, 7 background checks and signs blank release forms for an adoption? All tests, physicals, background checks and mammogram came back perfect! DSHS then tells us I have breast cancer.
Does anyone remember what DSHS told "Lily" the day they took her away? They wanted her to go into the DSHS office to open Christmas presents they had gotten her. There was never any presents and they took her away from us and the only family she had ever known and put her in a foster home. "Lily" remembers. When we celebrated Christmas at the DSHS office this year (heartbreaking) she did not want to open anything at first. She thought it was a trick..... What wonderful things they are teaching our babies...

(I offer this space for any other comments from family or DSHS. Pam)

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi Lily's Grandmother!
We are also grandparents although we are great but a young great,we are still very active and I also had both of my grandparents who lived until they were 104 years of age,so God willing we will also. Our granddaughter was basically told the same thing as yours only she was told that they were taking her to get an ice cream, excuse me but isn't that what predators tell children. What is this system creating? This system is absolutly horrible and needs some serious reconstrution from the top to the bottom.
Thank you and we will pray for you also.

Anonymous said...

I love it that you brought up the Christmas presents they bought her. They are NOT allowed to inflict any religious behavior onto these kids PERIOD! I got my brother his grandkids for Christmas by calling the worker and telling her we (my son and I) celebrate Christmas as the Mesopotamians did. They started the Christmas celebration. Well, this worker got on the phone and called my brother asking him how he and my mother celebrate Christmas. Had she had any intelligence she would have asked me whom I was refering to when I said "we". Instead she was vendictive calling my brother asking questions that were none of her business. By the way this woman is a member of a religious group. My brother got his grandkids for Christmas. Feels like the "crusades" all over again.

Anonymous said...

I too am a grandmother, ex councilwoman, who was coerced into surrendering my grandbaby. So many people want "precedence" set to intervene where the judges will not "consider" placement with them, but no one will help set precedence with these cases by offering assistance, financial aid, or otherwise. We must do it on our own, which is why there are no cases to support our position. My granddaughter is hording food in her foster home. The social workers blame that on me, yet it didn't happen until she was placed in the "foster to adopt home"...I watched Oprah yesterday, show on "hording" with 2 "expert" doctors who said, the person, child, is trying to fill a void, they are lonely, unhappy, and sad. They were "experts" in the field of hording. My grandbaby says, " I want to go home." No, this is not about the children; if it were about the children, they would be with relatives/family. They would have the self worth, self esteem, and value that are inherited from knowing you are wanted and loved. The caregiver saying, "She does...like "my daughter." (separation) I am so sorry for all of us who must endure the suffering as well as the siblings who suffer at the separations done by this agency, CASA, and the courts. Denise Revels Robinson, on January 3, 2010, Spokesman Review, stated her background; that she had a great upbringing; her mother a "homemaker" yet my grandbaby was ordered to stay in daycare at a time that I "was" going to get her home. I am a "homemaker." I wrote Susan Dreyfus telling her that our county does not align with Ms. Robinson's beliefs in any way. Family is not first. I asked her why I have to spend thousands of dollars to have my family when I have done nothing wrong? Even after the parents stipulated in court that I adopt. The laws are not followed. If anything, the laws are mocked in court because the judge is blatently aware that he/she is the law, and there is no other, especially in my county.

Anonymous said...

What about the other Grandparents?Her fathers parents,a lot of untrue things are being said.For one she saw her father more than a few times he was a good father and would have most likely won custody he was to be in court the day he was put to rest.She is in a very fine home where she is loved and happy. Talk to the other paternal grandparents lets here their side!

Lovingfitfather said...

I would urge anyone to personally verify anything CPS about a parent or family member. They routinely vilify parents and family using forgery, lies and perjury just so they can profit from intentionally failing our children.
CPS does not care about the "Best interest" of any child. Almost everyone who works for CPS has attended pre-employment training sessions wherein it is made clear that parents and family are children's enemy's. With protocol such as this how do our children have a chance?

Anonymous said...

we the people in order to form a more perfect union.....
our constitutional rights are violated and/or taken away every day, in is this land of the free and home of the brave?, as our families are undermined by those who we are to protect during times of war and terror and hardship?
if those of the department had to stand at the front lines and given the choice to defend...would they?

Anonymous said...

well practiced in the art of judicial baby stealing..ignoring proof of perjury forgery and fraud as the many departmental perpetraitors look on, as well as all the other judges and counsels agg's casa's public pretenders and those of the department.
and during the 18 month phase of the state dependency, the department and their legal cohorts systematically disintegrate a young life and it continues on during the appeal of the termination of parental rights. it is what they do...they are dependent.... upon the young lives of families...for their daily bread.
and their authorized superiors, for their daily bread, use their caseworkers and service providers... to meet or exceed that yearly quota of 'more heads for more beds'...to get funding deposited into their department (paid by our tax dollars).

Anonymous said...

the... service providers, employees and heads of the 'department' are all secure in the knowledge that their appreciation comes in the form of their paycheck, as well as in the multitude of outrageous benefits they receive leeching an undeserved salary and so to must keep business at an optimal level at all times....) sound too crass? they steal children don't they?